Although EXmas (2023) may seem like a typical holiday romantic comedy film, it brings a breath of fresh Midwestern air to the holiday canon by delving into family dynamics and relationships. In a genre historically saturated with cis-heteronormative holiday films, EXmas takes a slight deviation from tradition, introducing characters that contribute to diversity in both representation and storylines. It's essential to recognize, however, that the film primarily revolves around a white cis heterosexual (former) couple. Despite this central focus, director Jonah Feingold enriches the narrative by incorporating various secondary and tertiary characters with diverse racial and sexual backgrounds.
The film centers on the recently separated Ali Moyer (Leighton Meester) and Graham Stroop, (Robbie Amell) and their relationship with Graham's family. While this is the primary story, the audience is also introduced to Graham’s sister, Mindy Stroop (Veronika Slowikowska). We first see her in a discussion with her mother, Jeannie (Kathryn Greenwood), about why her partner is unable to join them this year. This subplot helps to establish the Stroop family as a loving, accepting, and warm family overall.
Following this conversation, Graham unexpectedly appears, surprising his mom and sister and expressing his desire to spend Christmas with them. However, there's a subtle indication that he may be doing so to avoid being alone during the holidays. Regardless, both Jeannie and Mindy react with absolute shock and panic, as they had invited Ali to join them, unaware that Graham would be joining them after declining previously. A noticeable awkwardness ensues among the three, with Graham expressing surprise at the lack of excitement surrounding his arrival. This seems to snap them into a crisis management mode, as they quickly shuffle him into another room hoping to avoid any interaction between Ali and Graham, but they are unsuccessful, as the two immediately discover each other.
As it happens, shortly after their breakup, Ali and the Stroops resumed communication. Jeannie acknowledges that given Ali's long-standing connection to the family, their familial-like relationship should not be dismissed. Following this, Graham decides to leave, expressing his intention to find other accommodations. Outside, he is joined by Mindy, who balances the role of a younger sister while also serving as a somewhat anticipated secondary (queer) character. In this capacity, she is there to engage in conversations, offer advice, and contribute to the growth and development of a main character.
