10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

That’s what Bobby Lieber (Billy Eichner) tells Aaron (Luke Macfarlane) on their first date in Bros. Dear Evan Hansen and I specifically refer to the musical show and not the movie, which was a major cultural phenomenon a few years back. Maybe the gag won’t live to feel timeless in even as short a period as five years, but it’s the perfect sales pitch for the movie if you want someone to believe in its potential as a rom-com. A very recognizable trait of a romcom is to introduce a romance between two seemingly incompatible people who weren’t even looking to fall in love with anyone, let alone each other. Think of 10 Things I Hate About You and how apparently incompatible the leads played by Heath Ledger and Julia Stiles were. The incompatibility I’m referring to doesn’t arise from them being polar opposites as people and is a result of them being too similar in their emotional unavailability. If you have seen Dear Evan Hansen or heard its songs, you will know Evan Hansen was emotionally unavailable and sealed off from the human world due to his mental illness and his abandonment issues from his dad leaving as a kid. And well, Boy Scouts aren’t exactly known for their emotional vulnerability. So if you are a hopeless romantic like me, I guess you’ll be dying to find out how their dynamic develops into a full-blown romantic relationship. And that should be reason enough to go watch Bros.

In some ways, Billy Eichner plays himself in the film. And if you aren’t a fan of him, watching Bros could get tedious. Except for the character development which, though somewhat rushed, is believable. Rushed character development is anyway a staple of romcoms. An example that comes to mind is (500) Days of Summer. Joseph Gordon-Levitt’s Tom confronts his commitment issues and problems with the way he approaches romance only towards the very end of the film. Bobby Lieber from Bros, much like Tom from (500) Days of Summer, is cynical about love. The difference is that Bobby is seemingly comfortable with being single. Bros opens with the filming of a podcast episode hosted by Bobby. In the episode, he mentions the “romantic single life”, something I believe a lot of us single people like to believe in. It’s not a cynical look at romance, but a poetic perspective for being single, with solo walks around the city and a healthy amount of alone time whenever you aren’t being overworked at your job. But Bobby’s vision, of course, has cynicism in it, because not a little later he goes on to retort to a friend about not being in a relationship by saying “who’s so happy all the time?” As far as a rom-com protagonist goes, this is someone we want to root for because it’s clear he wants love but avoids it. You want him to eat his words through the run time of the film and fall for the other handsome lead.

Opposite Bobby is Aaron. He’s the ex-hockey player who does CrossFit and looks too handsome for his age. Luke Macfarlane is a Hallmark movie staple and it’s fun to watch him star in a big studio production of the kind of films that make up a major portion of his filmography. In Bros, his character Aaron is someone incapable of commitment not because he’s cynical like Bobby, but because he’s shy. When Bobby invites him up after their first informal date, yes it’s informal because they both make a point of the fact that it is indeed not a date since neither is in a place to be dating, Aaron says “If I go upstairs, it becomes like a whole thing.” And yet, he invites Bobby over to a couple’s place. He is supposed to be having group sex with the couple and wants Bobby to join them. So it’s not the having sex part that gives him the jitters, it’s the having sex with Bobby alone part. Commitment issues are relatable and I had a lot of fun watching these two characters constantly verbally confirming that they’re not dating while giving each other signals of wanting to be together in a relationship. And it makes for compelling romantic drama too, because you’re rooting for them to get together and what’s a rom-com without a romance you wish would flourish against all odds?